Fani Stipkovic: How To Set Yourself Free And Live Your Dream!

I often love to start the day reading inspiring messages that lift me up enough to go full speed ahead and start my day off with a bang. However, only once, I read something that made the blood in my veins freeze instantly.


When I read this quote, my whole life flew past me. It really does sound like a definition out of hell, especially when you know that there is only one life. Somehow we repeat this to ourselves, often, but still, a lot of people are not ready to move in the direction of their dreams, blaming different circumstances for their situation in life.

After I read this powerful quote, some voices, or my inner roommates, as I like to call them, started to speak truly loud: ‘Do you live the way you want to live?’, ‘Are you honestly where you want to be?’ Do you act from your ego or from your heart? ‘Are you using your full potential?’ and most importantly ‘Do you live your dreams?’.

And honestly, how many of us would change our lives if we knew that there are only a few days left? What would we do differently? Most likely everything! But the ironic thing is, our time really is limited!

I remember once when my close friend was fighting cancer; in his last months, even though he didn’t know they were his last; he wanted to make things right with all the people he ever wronged or had hurt him. It didn’t matter. He wanted to be free of that and live every day peacefully, without the pressure of anger, resentment, and guilt. He experienced confrontation, something that truly negatively affects our health if we hold things inside of us. And it set him free, I remember, a lot of things that I used to tell him, thinking that it was a problem, and he would just tell me: ‘Does it really matter Fani?’

And he was right. And that’s how life should be lived; from the heart; connecting with your inner source and your full potential of love, kindness, creativity, and uniqueness. He passed away, but he showed all of us around him in his last months the definition of life and love. It’s life without an ego.


Experiencing a loss of someone so close to me who was so young, having his entire life ahead of him, I said to myself, something we all say to ourselves very often when we realize how small our problems actually are compared to ‘real’ problems and how ungrateful we can be, ‘I will never let myself stress over things that are not significant!’.

However, soon I got into my old habits, putting my job as my priority and a lot of times other people needs in front of my own, stressing over things that don’t matter and wasting time on things that I can’t control. I allowed myself to be drained by energy vampires in many situations and then when you are drained, you can’t give love to yourself and of course, in those moments life can’t love us back.

Not long after that, I myself was faced with the serious illness that almost caused me my life. Because the truth is life can seriously change in one second. And if you ignore the signs that the Universe is trying to send you, you will be given the biggest lesson to finally learn.

And this experience, truly shaped me, changed me and polished me. Completely. And what have I learned from it? I would say everything. Most of all, I finally connected with myself completely. Because life will give you whichever experience is more helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.

“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love – you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.”
Eckhart Toll

A lot of people that I know are not entirely fulfilled if they are totally honest with themselves. They miss some ingredient for complete fulfillment; that inner fulfillment when life is alive inside of you and you shine. And when you feel truly free; as if you can fly.


So what ‘s standing in our way to our complete fulfillment? Usually, it’s just ourselves, our fears and our limited mind that blocks us.

So how do we break our own limits? First of all, the key is getting rid of everything that pulls you down. How will you ever go upwards if someone or something is pulling you down?

“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.”
Muhamed Ali

So these are my 6 rules to unlock your inner happiness and live your full potential:


Forgive everyone who ever hurt you. That feeling will give you freedom. Relieve any burden of hatred, resentment, and guilt. If you hurt anyone, ask for forgiveness and correct your mistakes. You cannot affect how someone will react or feel, but you can affect how you will feel and whatever is done from the heart is good. Relieve the burden of the past, because you will have no future when you hold a grudge inside of you. It’s like having a weight on your back.

“Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong, it makes you bitter, forgiving doesn’t make you weak, it sets you free”. -Unknown


Know yourself, know your wishes, follow your dreams. Find out what it is that you want, not what others want for you. Ask yourself, ‘How do I want to live?’, ‘What are my dreams?’. Write it on a piece of paper and read it every morning when you wake up and before you go to sleep.

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.” Eckhart Tolle


If the opportunity does not come to you, you have to go to it. In any sense, business and personally. Get out, spend time outdoors, interact with people, explore your talents and expand your horizons. Read books and travel! Feel life and all that life has to offer!


One of the great techniques of self-development is journaling. Keep a record of how you feel and how you face your fears and slam them. Try something new every day and write how you feel about it! It is an excellent way to see how much you’ve changed, developed and moved from one place.


Do not participate in gossip, don’t judge, find love and understanding for each situation. Remember ‘Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.’ Avoid mediocre! Be yourself! If you are yourself, you’ll have no competition because there is just one of you in this world!

“There is only one success, to be able to live your life your own way.”
Christopher Morley


You can’t change what you are not conscious of. The only thing you can do to be aware of yourself and the world around you is to be present. It is the most beautiful state and emotion, to be able to strongly feel every second of our life and to learn from it.

“Take chances. Tell the truth.
Date someone totally wrong for you.
Say no. Spend all your cash. Fall in love.
Get to know someone random. Be random.
Say I love you. Sing out loud.
Laugh at a stupid joke. Cry.
Tell someone how much they mean to you.
Let someone know what they’re missing.
Don’t worry about everyone else. Be yourself.
Laugh until your stomach hurts. Live life… “

Read this as many times as it takes, shift whatever is blocking you and enjoy the gift of life. Because it truly is a gift!

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