Let’s be honest: Modern parenting isn’t easy. And it’s certainly not cheap either. Author and mother Bunmi Laditan fully understands this, which is why she recently took to Facebook to unload her stresses. In a post that’s now going viral, Laditan unpacks many of the annoyances of modern parenting—namely, the fact that childrens’ vitamins cost more than some utility bills.
“Being a modern parent is terrible,” Laditan writes in her post. “I’d give my left kneecap to have parented in the ’70s or ’80s when all you had to do to be considered a good mom is to remember to wind down the windows when you smoke in the car.” She’s half-joking, obviously. But she’s also touching on a very real frustration. Laditan explains that she spent 45 minutes that morning researching childrens’ vitamins—weighing the pros and cons of things like probiotics and supplements. She combed through online reviews and blog posts, only to be bombarded by a variety of opinions—none of which were backed by reliable science, she adds.
“I own two good bras but I’m ready to spend upwards of $ 100 on children’s vitamins,” she writes. “Do you know what vitamins I had growing up? NONE. DAYLIGHT WAS MY VITAMIN.” Laditan then transitions into a conversation about her own childhood—marked by Kid Cuisines, Tampico, and the occasional chalky Flintstone vitamin. Laditan says she’s tired of getting glares from other parents when she gives her son a juice box; being told she needs to give her children fish oil pills; and getting barraged by messages about which vitamins are “sugary trash that cause leprosy and ADHD” without being given a viable alternative.
“Nothing about modern parenting is simple and it irritates me,” Laditan writes. “So now, I’m about to spend an electricity bill on vitamins. Because in 2016, you don’t really love your kids if you’re not a paranoid mess about their physical well-being, and willing to spend a small fortune on dye-free toothpaste made in the woods that tastes like elderberry and privilege.” You said a mouthful there, sister.
Funnily enough, the American Academy of Pediatrics believes “healthy children receiving a normal, well-balanced diet do not need vitamin supplementation.” In fact, it warns that megadoses of vitamins can actually produce toxic symptoms. That said, the AAP recommends that parents consult with pediatricians before making any decisions on the matter.
“If you need me, I’ll be in front of my computer crying bitter tears and searching for phthalate-free bubble bath,” Laditan writes. “I don’t even know what a phthalate is.” We get it, Laditan. The modern parenting struggle is so real.
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