Women Reveal the Most Out-There Thing They’ve Ever Asked a Guy to Do in Bed

There are many reasons to ask your S.O. to try something freaky between the sheets. Not only can trying a fresh move in bed can feel ahhhmazing, but advocating for your own pleasure is also an essential part of a healthy sexual relationship, says sexologist Megan Stubbs, Ed.D.

If you’re holding back because you’re worried you’ll be shut down or judged, don’t stress about it, says Stubbs. “Keep in mind that your partner wants to please you, so speak up!” she says.

Need a little nudge? Take your inspiration from these five women who weren’t afraid to ask for what they want. While they weren’t all successful, you’ve got to give them props.